Wednesday. 4pm. Kitchen table. Mug of tea, slightly cold.
You decide today is a good enough day to start writing.
You want to leave them something good while you still feel like yourself.
Not a panic. Not a rush. The letters you have always meant to write, the practical notes nobody else carries, and a calm half-hour at the kitchen table while you are still the one choosing the words.
What only you know
Most households quietly run on one person.
The master login for the personal password manager
The primary mobile phone unlock PIN and tablet passcode
The household utility account listings and registration codes
Personal preferences for funeral or memorial arrangements
Private digital messages directed to close contacts
Contact details and policy numbers for personal pension administrators
None of this is in a drawer. None of it is in your partner's phone. It is all in your head.
If you went silent tomorrow
Here is what unravels.
This month
You write the long letter to the one person you most want to hear from you, in your own words.
Next month
You add the practical notes: phone PIN, password manager, the pension, where the will is.
Whenever you like
You record a short note for the children, the godchild, the friend you have known since school.
When the time comes
Your family does not have to dig, guess or wonder what you would have wanted. It is already in their hands, in your voice.
By next month, your partner is firefighting. Not grieving. Firefighting.
How it works
One tap a month. Until the day you stop tapping.
Grace period
30 days to reply
We try email, text, and a phone reminder. You log in once, everything resets.
Alex, friend since uni
Witness 1, confirmed
Priya, family
Witness 2, confirmed
Recipient
The people you named
That is it. Six pounds a month.
One tap. Two witnesses. Delivery only when both confirm.
What actually happens
Your partner gets exactly what they need.
The letters you wrote in your own words
Your funeral and memorial wishes, written down
Phone PIN, password manager, pension and will reference
A clear note on who should be told first, and how
And it is six pounds a month.
Two witnesses have confirmed. Here is what the people you named asked us to share with you.
Open securely
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Take your time. Samaritans 116 123 if you need someone now.
What you actually do
Ten minutes today. One tap a month. That is the whole thing.
- Step 1
Write what your family would want from you
The personal letters, the funeral wishes, the phone PIN, the password manager master, the pension number, where the will is. Short notes, in any order, on the days you feel up to it.
- Step 2
Name two friends as witnesses
Your partner, a sibling, a close friend. If we ever stop hearing from you, we ask them separately to confirm.
- Step 3
One tap a month, that is the whole job
We send one short email a month. You tap once. If you stop tapping, we wait, try again, and only then start the verified delivery.
The price
£6 a month.
Less than a gym you don't go to. Cheaper than the streaming bundle you forgot you have.
- Netflix Basic£8 / mo
- A gym membership£35 / mo
- Spotify Premium£11 / mo
- Three coffees£10 / mo
- If You Die£6 / mo
Cancel any time. If you ever do, your messages are wiped within 30 days.
Doing this for the whole household? Family plan, £18/mo for five.
What we never do
Trust is the product. These four lines are why.
We never read your words
No human reads what you write. No AI is trained on it. Encrypted at rest, the honest version.
Two humans must confirm
We do not deliver on a missed email. Two witnesses you named must, separately, attest. No exceptions.
We never sell your data
Not anonymised, not aggregated, not under any future ownership change. It is in the terms in black and white.
We never assume your beliefs
Religion, culture, what you call the people you named. You write the words. We deliver them, unedited.