The thing everyone keeps meaning to sort out
One plan for the whole household. Five people, one bill.
Each person writes their own letters, names their own witnesses, keeps their own privacy. The point of doing it together is that nobody at the table has to do it alone, later.
Why together
Each of you has letters only you should write.
Your goodbye to your child is not your partner's goodbye. Your instructions about the business are not your eldest's. Doing it together is not writing the same letter twice; it is making sure nobody has to do it alone, later.
Your own letters
Each person writes their own goodbyes, in their own words. Nobody reads them but the person they were meant for.
Your own privacy
Members never see each other's letters, recipients, or witnesses. Not even the person paying the bill.
Your own check-ins
Each person picks weekly, monthly, or quarterly. Each runs separately. One person dropping off does not trigger anyone else.
How a household Sunday goes
About two hours, then it is done.
Someone makes the tea.
One person creates the household account at £18 a month. That person is the organiser. They pay the bill, nothing more.
Everyone signs up.
The organiser sends a link to each member. Each creates their own account. Four invites included; more cost £4 a month each.
Each person writes what only they know.
Letters to specific people. Where the spare key is. The bank PIN nobody else has. What you want said at the funeral. Anything you would not want them to have to guess.
Each person names two witnesses, outside the household.
Closest friends. A colleague. A sibling who lives elsewhere. Never another member of this household. If the accident is the household, witnesses inside it are caught in the same accident. We learnt this one the hard way.
One person picks the successor.
If the organiser ever stops responding, the successor steps in: take over the whole household, or just keep their own seat. Thirty-day window. No fight, no admin, no court.
The order that keeps you safe
Nothing is sent until all five, in order. Logging in once resets it to zero.
What members see about each other
Names. Emails. Last check-in. Nothing else.
What the organiser sees
- Each member's name and email
- When each member last checked in
- Whether each member has set up witnesses
What the organiser cannot see
- The contents of any letter
- Who any letter is for
- Who anyone's witnesses are
What it costs
£18 a month for five.
£4 for each extra person.
Less than three coffees a month for the entire household. Add or remove seats any time. Or, if you would rather pay once and never think about a renewal, become a Founding member for a single payment, forever.
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